Dating another guy
He asks, “How do you feel about your ability to give in this relationship?
Do you feel like you’re adequate–doing everything you can, carrying the weight where you feel your partner’s satisfied with you?
I am one who believes monogamy can be fulfilling and successful.
I also believe we all deserve to feel we have the power of making a choice.
That’s a common thing in open relating: Guilt for women.
Here I am having fun and doing all these things and am I leaving him out?
A recent dinner with a past acquaintance has brought me to a place where I now know a conversation on why-I-even-dressed-up-for-a-dinner-with-a-man-I-had-no-idea-was-married-until-we-were-well-into-dessert is very much needed.
“It’s about not having the control over each other,” she says.
To Seku, “Traditional relating is just not matching up. Some men look elsewhere in order to feel like they’re not dying.
They want to reproduce what they felt when they first met their wife.
In situations where people who are monogamous say ‘O.k., we’ll be able to work it out’ and their partner alludes to ‘I know what you’re saying, but I’m going to start seeing other people anyway,’ they typically do not succeed.” For those who present with a willingness to try open relating, their reasons vary but may often include incompatible sex drives.
Menzise says he has seen many situations where one partner feels inadequate in a sense of not being experienced enough or not lasting long enough such as with a wife who may have a higher sex drive.