Do black women hate black men dating white women
Most people, including black people, don’t like feeling interchangeable and collectable, funnily enough.Maybe in your head, in this Trump-thinks-Neo-Nazis- are-really-fine-people kind of climate, it might seem really forward-thinking to say that you “only date black people” – but you also have to consider how that makes a black person close to you feel. Sex educator and blogger Oloni recently uncovered a conversation between two hosts of the podcast, Guys We F*****d. In an episode posted on called “DO GUYS SHOW EACH OTHERS THEIR DICKS?To my surprise there was a nice group photo with my friend’s sister, her boyfriend, my friend (all white) and a black girl. ” And my 2016 self in university would have been like “yeah great interracial relationships are great cool.” But me now is like: Here’s why: Black people are not a commodity. Take me for instance: My name is Ella, I’m a singer, and I’m a blogger.Judging that he had let me know that he had broken up with his girlfriend (one I didn’t know he had and who was black also) I could only assume he had found this black girl in the seven days leading up to the party. My favourite colour is blue and I have a sweet tooth.Questions like, “is he just dating me because I’m black? ” the hosts have a short debrief of the weekend past saying things like “I been fucking black guys since like the early 2000’s” and, “this was like a real black guy”, “he looks pretty black” “he didn’t act black enough but he did this weekend.” Listen to the podcast here: I listen to this post and I’m horrified, but not surprised.
However, like most other philias, it’s not a great thing. It’s about you bragging about picking up a black girl at the club just because she’s black, or that you’ve gained a nickname like ‘Cadbury’s’ or ‘Wonka’ because of all the black girlfriends you’ve had. It’s collecting them, like you would cars or stamps.
Writer of ‘White Fragility’ Robin Di Angelo says when someone is accused of being racist they think they are being pigeonholed into the box of Individual people who have malicious opinions about people based on skin colour.
Because that idea of a racist is what most people gravitate towards, it’s more than likely you’ll get defensive. If you sit there reading this and think: ‘because black men are thugs in bed!
Looking at Oloni’s Instagram comments, quite a lot of the internet weren’t happy about the comments made in the podcast and voiced their opinions: one user wrote ‘[it sounds like] they are talking about fucking Pokémon cards or something.
These women should be disgusted with themselves.’ Another said, ‘wow that’s disgusting and disturbing.