Gay dating after being hurt
But male bottoming should not be considered kinky, and women penetrating men should not be considered kinky. One last reason why every man should try being penetrated: It feels incredible. For both parties involved, but especially for the male bottom. With prostate stimulation, you get to experience full body orgasms.
Here’s an apt comparison: Men, remember when you discovered masturbating and you thought, “How could this get any better? They’re more intense and no longer localized to your genitals. There’s no reason why only gay and bisexual men should get to experience all the good stuff.
Having now been penetrated repeatedly, by both men and women, I can safely say my first experience wasn’t a fluke. If I liked them before, I tend to like them even more after. And vulnerability leads to intensity (and also great sex).
It wasn’t simply the novelty that caused my emotional and sensory overload. If I was kind of “meh” about them before, that “meh” becomes an “Ew, I don’t want to see you ever again.” I feel vulnerable, open, exposed. It’s no surprise that I seldom bottom for people during one-night stands. I need to know you aren’t going to ram me without proper foreplay. I understand these guys got a little overzealous, but at the end of the day, it’s not something I ever want to have happen again.
I’ve been penetrated by women, but not that many — either with fingers or with strap-ons.
Consistently, the woman enjoys it (and wants to do it again).
Women have described it to me as a surge of power and dominance; something that they might seldom get to experience during sex.
When women do want to penetrate me, it’s very much in a context of BDSM — but I don’t think it has to be. Excuse my vulgarity, but when I bottom for a woman, we’re never making love — I’m just getting f*cked. Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage?
I was in a long-term relationship with someone for many years who was out to family and some personal friends but not out at work or with other social relationships.You’re going to smile, laugh it off, and still want to be with me. I honestly believe that if more men were penetrated, they would stop being such aggressive little punks about having sex so damn soon.I know that’s a generalization, and I know that there are a myriad of other societal factors that contribute to the tired trope of “Men always wanting sex and woman always resisting,” but I think the lack of empathy, coming from a place of never having been penetrated, is a contributing factor. There’s also the other side to why men should be penetrated that’s often overlooked: All women should have the chance to experience being the penetrator.It’s a different experience being the penetrator; just like it’s a unique experience being the "penetratee".The power dynamics of sex vary greatly, as does pleasure, depending on which position you’re in.